Contacting My Ex On Special Occasions or Holidays
Wednesday, February 24th, 2010you do on holidays and other special occasions? It creates a real dilemma when you have been a part of someone’s life for a while. But now you aren’t, so what is the right way to contact your ex?
You may still want to send them a birthday or holiday card, but you don’t want to appear desperate or like a creepy stalker person. What should you do? I would say it’s perfectly okay to send a greeting. Just so long as you don’t go overboard with it.
Don’t use this as an excuse to send a long, rambling letter apologizing for the breakup. It also wouldn’t be wise to send an expensive gift. Stay away from flowers, candy, or any other gift that says ‘love’ when contacting your ex.
Pick a card that says ‘friend’ instead. You may even choose to write a short note, but keep it friendly and lighthearted. You may even joke around a little. Don’t obsess over it and spend hours choosing just the right card and writing the message. Make it sound really natural and like it was a last minute thought.
Here is the real key behind contacting your ex:
Send the card LATE. I would actually mail it on the day of the event. Why? What this says to your ex is that you ‘almost forgot’. That way they won’t think you’re sitting around thinking about them all the time. They may even be kind of expecting you to send them something. When the big day comes and goes, they may be a little disappointed that you ‘forgot’. Then a few days later here comes your card. Nice touch! It can sometimes prompt the ex to call you to say thank you. Bonus!
It may seem to you like your ex has moved on completely and doesn’t really want to hear from you. Most of the time this is far from true. They may even still have feelings for you, but just don’t want to show it. If they act like they are completely over you it gives them more power.
I hope this helps you better understand the best way to contact your ex. Spreading a little goodwill never hurts. Who knows, that little card may be what starts them thinking about you again. It could even be the start of mending the relationship.
copyright by Gene Elias